Age Old Marriage Customs......Change the Trend.....
Even today we all....we all by that i mean girls have to go through this marriage customs which are quite disgusting at times. If you are not in love and have decided to marry as per your parents wish then this is bound to happen.If you are lucky enough then this might not happen.I would like to share few experiences which I had as well as I have heard.
Now I think we all know what out traditional Indian custom is?I am not against it but the way it is being carried is really wrong.Now there is this generally boy and his family come to see the girl at her place. I think it is nice that the families come and get to know each other and then select.But i think what bad is about the number of people who come to see.From girls side it has to be always her parents or 1-2 of her relatives.And from boy's side everyone comes as if it is a barat and the person with whom you have to marry is missing.Now it is like if everyone likes the girl then the boy will come.The girl is not being asked or even shown the person who is the link with all those people sitting infront of her.And the boy can reject any time he wants or even his some long distant relative can reject because he didnt like her smile.Now this is really a bad thing happening.I think those people who are actually going to stay together for day in and day out should meet each other.Even the girls should be asked their opinion and she has a equal right to see the person who is the link for the family.If all this is done in a elegant manner then it is really nice.This custom is good then.
People can actually reject you on anything.I think who so ever comes to see the girl should know that the girl has akwardness for speaking just like that to the boy.She cannot actually start blabbering the moment she sees him.She cannot think him to be her friend right in first go.And the result of all this is that she is simply declared to be reserved with out actaully knowing the truth.Now there was a boy who came to see a friend of mine.He just simply started putting his demands that you need to this all things.If you are ready then lets talk ahead otherwise forget it.Now this is really funny.The boy has got a huge list of demands and he didnt even bother to know what she expects.Now whatever demands put forth were very simple and actually these demands were base less.Any girl, I mean Indian girl who marries a boy is mentally prepared to handle eveyr responsiblity put down to her.What she expect is only to hear"I am there for you as your support" and she can actually take care of every responsiblity right from office to home to in-laws to children.
Some people really think that if they have given birth to a boy then they are very big or something great.They should give equal importance to the girls parents.Now this another day there was a boy's father who called and said we are coming on so and so day.When the girl's fatehr siad that he wont be there he got a very funny or you can say stupid reply.The father says you need not be there, anyways we need to see the girl and select.Now I say why the girl's father whould not see the people to whom he is giving her piece of heart.He has equal right to know if the people in front have the capablity to keep his daughter fine.
We all are educated and know our sciences very well.But still there are boy's family who reject a girl because the girl doesnt have brother.Now if she doesnt have a brother it doesn mean that she cannot give a birth to a baby boy.And why we all run behind boys.Even girls can take care of parents.There are people who see the photographs of the girl and then come to see her.And after all this she is being rejected as she is not beautiful.Are there nerds seeing photographs with closed eyes that they do not understand that the girl is not beautiful.Now lets not go in what is beauty as everyone has their own set of defination for it.
If I start writting every incidence then its going to be a big book.But I think the girl and her family should also been given equal importance.Now there are many such incidences.I think any of the boy who is reading this should try and improve this situation.You should know even girls are educated and have there own set of feeling.She should also be asked what she wants. And if any of the girls are reading this blog then stand for yourself.Meet the boy whom you are going to marry.Let him know what you feel.I think we all as young generation and to amke this place better should take care of these things.I think they are quite small but they do hurt many hearts.
-Deepti
Now I think we all know what out traditional Indian custom is?I am not against it but the way it is being carried is really wrong.Now there is this generally boy and his family come to see the girl at her place. I think it is nice that the families come and get to know each other and then select.But i think what bad is about the number of people who come to see.From girls side it has to be always her parents or 1-2 of her relatives.And from boy's side everyone comes as if it is a barat and the person with whom you have to marry is missing.Now it is like if everyone likes the girl then the boy will come.The girl is not being asked or even shown the person who is the link with all those people sitting infront of her.And the boy can reject any time he wants or even his some long distant relative can reject because he didnt like her smile.Now this is really a bad thing happening.I think those people who are actually going to stay together for day in and day out should meet each other.Even the girls should be asked their opinion and she has a equal right to see the person who is the link for the family.If all this is done in a elegant manner then it is really nice.This custom is good then.
People can actually reject you on anything.I think who so ever comes to see the girl should know that the girl has akwardness for speaking just like that to the boy.She cannot actually start blabbering the moment she sees him.She cannot think him to be her friend right in first go.And the result of all this is that she is simply declared to be reserved with out actaully knowing the truth.Now there was a boy who came to see a friend of mine.He just simply started putting his demands that you need to this all things.If you are ready then lets talk ahead otherwise forget it.Now this is really funny.The boy has got a huge list of demands and he didnt even bother to know what she expects.Now whatever demands put forth were very simple and actually these demands were base less.Any girl, I mean Indian girl who marries a boy is mentally prepared to handle eveyr responsiblity put down to her.What she expect is only to hear"I am there for you as your support" and she can actually take care of every responsiblity right from office to home to in-laws to children.
Some people really think that if they have given birth to a boy then they are very big or something great.They should give equal importance to the girls parents.Now this another day there was a boy's father who called and said we are coming on so and so day.When the girl's fatehr siad that he wont be there he got a very funny or you can say stupid reply.The father says you need not be there, anyways we need to see the girl and select.Now I say why the girl's father whould not see the people to whom he is giving her piece of heart.He has equal right to know if the people in front have the capablity to keep his daughter fine.
We all are educated and know our sciences very well.But still there are boy's family who reject a girl because the girl doesnt have brother.Now if she doesnt have a brother it doesn mean that she cannot give a birth to a baby boy.And why we all run behind boys.Even girls can take care of parents.There are people who see the photographs of the girl and then come to see her.And after all this she is being rejected as she is not beautiful.Are there nerds seeing photographs with closed eyes that they do not understand that the girl is not beautiful.Now lets not go in what is beauty as everyone has their own set of defination for it.
If I start writting every incidence then its going to be a big book.But I think the girl and her family should also been given equal importance.Now there are many such incidences.I think any of the boy who is reading this should try and improve this situation.You should know even girls are educated and have there own set of feeling.She should also be asked what she wants. And if any of the girls are reading this blog then stand for yourself.Meet the boy whom you are going to marry.Let him know what you feel.I think we all as young generation and to amke this place better should take care of these things.I think they are quite small but they do hurt many hearts.
-Deepti
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