At times you cannot share everything with everyone....
I work for a engineering company which deals with environment......The company is a kind of contractor for the projects.....I was in this field for years and I knew this field very well.This was a man's world where girls still have to make a space for themselves.Girls had to make their presence felt for every small reason right from the abuses experienced to the higher post and its acceptance.
But I loved the work I used to do.For one such project I was sent to a very remote place.The place where every thing was male dominated.I had to work there with all other males.When I reached I got to know that there are no females on the whole site and I am the only one who is working there.Not only this but even the basic necessity like wash room was not available for girls.I had to walk almost a kilometer.So there should never be an emergency even for that and everything should be planned.
I still remember the first day when I stepped out of the car every worker there was staring me as if I had faults with my clothes.I checked and rechecked my clothes thousands of times but they were all okay.As I walked I felt as if I was some alien whom these people had never seen.But for me there was no way out but to cope with the situation.Whenever I was not in the control room or our site office everyone used to stare as if they had X-ray eyes fitted.I felt very odd for few days.But later on I got used to it.This was something which I had to live with and was not able to share it with anyone.But I always shared it with my friend.
I got used to this kind of behavior when I got to know something which was more terrifying for me.I heard that workers there used to take snaps and put as wallpaper for their mobiles.I didn't have much tension as I am not so beautiful that my pictures would be taken.But it was something which was really felt bad about.I mean how anyone could be like that.But some how I tried to neglect it and move ahead.
I moved ahead only for a next surprise.Actually it might not be a surprise but I didn't like such kind of behavior.A senior officer from site asked me for mobile numbers and hotel address.He even came and held my hands for long time.At that time I coped up with the situation by making him feel sorry for what he has done.But he showed no signs of improvement.I decided to if next time he comes I would give a tight slap and leave the site for whatever reasons.But to my fortune he himself left the site and I was very happy for it.
Now I got adjusted to everything in that remote place.These were very small things but I was not able to share with any of the male officers from my office.They asked me if I had any problem but I never blurted out any of this.The uncivilized way of people was once more highlighted when a waiter from the hotel knocked my door at 11.30 pm.I pretended to be fats asleep but he was adamant to get some stupid sign on the food bills.He even rang up the room extension to ask me to open the door.I was damn scared at that time.Every waiter there was uneducated and uncivilized.
I felt as if there are no women in this world.The more frustrating incident was when even educated people behaved like this.A person well educated form a renowned college and at a good post neglected or didn't speak to me for some sheer stupid reasons.He only came did some small amount of work and slept with his head on the desk. He kept of saying am very tired and need some sleep as if we all stand there with enough of sleep and we are never tired.The are people who worked there were much more tired than him. I felt like giving him two tight slaps.I felt insulted every now and then but I was helpless and could not do anything about it.
The more bad I felt was about the back end people.Everybody from office called but the person whose call I was expecting never called me.Nor the person ever asked me if I needed any help or money.He even rejected the money which I had asked to arrange from the company.I don't know how he didn't even bother to know anything about this project or even about me.I was disheartened by it.
The people at site were really good.They always kept me well.They always inquired about me and if everything was okay.This particular visit was a big learning experience for me.
My friend very well says "Engineering wale dehtai hote hai,unko It walo se sikhana chahiye"
I think it is perfectly right.Really they are uncivilized people who need to change a lot.Hope there is this one golden day when girls are also very well recognized in this field.All in all this something which made me strong,to move ahead and face any and every challenge in my life.I don't know whom I should thank for this particular thing.
-Deepti
But I loved the work I used to do.For one such project I was sent to a very remote place.The place where every thing was male dominated.I had to work there with all other males.When I reached I got to know that there are no females on the whole site and I am the only one who is working there.Not only this but even the basic necessity like wash room was not available for girls.I had to walk almost a kilometer.So there should never be an emergency even for that and everything should be planned.
I still remember the first day when I stepped out of the car every worker there was staring me as if I had faults with my clothes.I checked and rechecked my clothes thousands of times but they were all okay.As I walked I felt as if I was some alien whom these people had never seen.But for me there was no way out but to cope with the situation.Whenever I was not in the control room or our site office everyone used to stare as if they had X-ray eyes fitted.I felt very odd for few days.But later on I got used to it.This was something which I had to live with and was not able to share it with anyone.But I always shared it with my friend.
I got used to this kind of behavior when I got to know something which was more terrifying for me.I heard that workers there used to take snaps and put as wallpaper for their mobiles.I didn't have much tension as I am not so beautiful that my pictures would be taken.But it was something which was really felt bad about.I mean how anyone could be like that.But some how I tried to neglect it and move ahead.
I moved ahead only for a next surprise.Actually it might not be a surprise but I didn't like such kind of behavior.A senior officer from site asked me for mobile numbers and hotel address.He even came and held my hands for long time.At that time I coped up with the situation by making him feel sorry for what he has done.But he showed no signs of improvement.I decided to if next time he comes I would give a tight slap and leave the site for whatever reasons.But to my fortune he himself left the site and I was very happy for it.
Now I got adjusted to everything in that remote place.These were very small things but I was not able to share with any of the male officers from my office.They asked me if I had any problem but I never blurted out any of this.The uncivilized way of people was once more highlighted when a waiter from the hotel knocked my door at 11.30 pm.I pretended to be fats asleep but he was adamant to get some stupid sign on the food bills.He even rang up the room extension to ask me to open the door.I was damn scared at that time.Every waiter there was uneducated and uncivilized.
I felt as if there are no women in this world.The more frustrating incident was when even educated people behaved like this.A person well educated form a renowned college and at a good post neglected or didn't speak to me for some sheer stupid reasons.He only came did some small amount of work and slept with his head on the desk. He kept of saying am very tired and need some sleep as if we all stand there with enough of sleep and we are never tired.The are people who worked there were much more tired than him. I felt like giving him two tight slaps.I felt insulted every now and then but I was helpless and could not do anything about it.
The more bad I felt was about the back end people.Everybody from office called but the person whose call I was expecting never called me.Nor the person ever asked me if I needed any help or money.He even rejected the money which I had asked to arrange from the company.I don't know how he didn't even bother to know anything about this project or even about me.I was disheartened by it.
The people at site were really good.They always kept me well.They always inquired about me and if everything was okay.This particular visit was a big learning experience for me.
My friend very well says "Engineering wale dehtai hote hai,unko It walo se sikhana chahiye"
I think it is perfectly right.Really they are uncivilized people who need to change a lot.Hope there is this one golden day when girls are also very well recognized in this field.All in all this something which made me strong,to move ahead and face any and every challenge in my life.I don't know whom I should thank for this particular thing.
-Deepti
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