“I” and not “i”



Some days back I was sent for LDP Training. This first module of training was about “Manage Self” Before reaching the venue I just had my own preconception that it would just be about managing time and work and put things in places. But it was totally different, something which we always know but always forgets.

We always forget the “I” in us. It is actually a capital “I” which means that you are also important and equally deserving. But with all the chores of life right from family to work to deadline this “I” is lost and we only remember it as small “i” So true. We always forget everything about us in our busy life. We just don’t have time to sit back and think about ourselves, our self as individual. We actually need to hit hard to remember when was the last time we spent time with our self and yes we do remember spending time with spouse, family, friends, office etc every single person but not “I” in this busy lives we forget about enjoying small things in life. As we grow up we forget how fun it is to play in first rain. With all the sophisticated manners we forget to enjoy ice cream by making your hands and mouth sticky. We forget to just sit back and read a good book with a good cup of coffee.  I felt it so funny when I was asked what I do on a day off. I actually don’t remember any day being spent for me. I have always been running to do things.

In Time Management studies there is something called as Time Quadrant Theory. It is basically nothing but quadrants in which our work is divided. The quadrants are like below

QUADRANT I
IMPORTANT
AND
URGENT
QUADRANT II
IMPORTANT
BUT
NOT URGENT
QUADRANT III
URGENT
BUT
NOT IMPORTANT
QUADRANT IV
NOT URGENT
AND
NOT IMPORTANT

We have got all things divided in these four quadrants. And we put our self in Quadrant II or may be at times in Quadrant IV. I personally always put my health in Quadrant IV. I know if I kept it in Quadrant IV soon it will be a time when it would shift directly to Quadrant I. Ideally we should put ourselves in Quadrant II and take care so that it never goes to Quadrant I. But we always have this tendency to keep ourselves in Quadrant II or Quadrant IV.

We always have a fantastically articulated reason for not spending time with ourselves and that is “We are busy” We are never busy; it’s just that our priorities are different. And “I” as a priority is always in Quadrant IV.

I have decided for sure that for me it would always be “I” and not “i” and I will always put myself in Quadrant II.

-Deepti

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